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Involuntary celibacy



Involuntary celibacy is the state of a person who has not established an intimate relationship or engaged in sexual intercourse for reasons other than voluntary celibacy or sexual abstinence. The term is used especially for adults who, despite general expectations, have had little to no sexual or romantic experience.

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Definition

An involuntarily celibate person is someone who fails to initiate or sustain a sexual or romantic relationship, despite his/her desire to experience such a relationship. Afflicted people may suffer from loneliness, frustration, and may be mistaken for homosexuals who are hiding their sexuality.

There is debate concerning the duration of the celibacy needed to qualify for the label of involuntary celibacy. Some people class themselves as involuntary celibate because they are not in a relationship at the moment, though they have been in the recent past and are likely to be again. Critics to this view suggest that the proper label for this is simply being "single", which, unlike "involuntarily celibate", is in common usage and does not carry potential social stigma. Donnelly and Burgess used a floor figure of six months of involuntary celibacy in their study design. Others apply the term only to those who have never been involved in a sexual and/or romantic relationship, or to those who never had a date, or even kissed somebody.[1]

Research

A study was initiated in 1998 by researchers from Georgia State University when a member of an online discussion group for involuntary celibates inquired about current research on the subject. [1] The study, Involuntary celibacy: A life course analysis, [2] was published in 2001 in the Journal of Sex Research, produced by the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. A news article reporting on the study indicated that involuntary celibacy can lead to anger and depression. [3] Involuntary celibacy: A life course analysis has also been included in an anthology of scholarly literature. [4]

In a March 6, 2004 letter by Brian G. Gilmartin, who performed extensive studies on involuntarily celibate males (whom he termed "love-shy"), he noted that "as many as 40 percent of the cases of severely love-shy men would qualify for a diagnosis of 'Asperger's Syndrome'", a proportion supported in his 1987 book.[5]

Criticism

Very little research has been published on involuntary celibacy, and few statistics are available, although it is finding its way onto university syllabi.[6][7] It does not appear to be a concept taken seriously by those who do not experience it. However, conditions associated with involuntary celibacy may include severe depression,[8] self-harm, mental illness, substance abuse,[9] and even suicide. Also, involuntary celibacy could lead to self-absorption and an unhealthy obsession with human sexual behavior.[10]Involuntarilly celibate men (especially, heterosexual men) may also be urged towards telephone scatalogia, [2]voyeurism, [3] frotteurism, [4] stalking[5] and rape[11] [6]

Contributing factors

Lack of social skills, charisma or sex-appeal, disability, socio-economic factors, such as homelessness, poverty, the lack of education and unemployment.[7] may also play a role in preventing courtship. Certain other factors such as having a criminal record or having HIV/AIDS may also play such similar roles in courtship prevention.

Although involuntary celibacy is often associated with love shyness, love shy individuals do not necessarily experience a lack of people who would consider them attractive. Love shy individuals may simply fail to reciprocate another's attraction toward them or fail to be proactive in pursuing potential romantic interests, even when success is in their favor.

Involuntary celibacy may also be perpetuated by cognitive biases and/or negative explanatory styles such as learned helplessness or fundamental attribution error.

  • Learned helplessness occurs when, after experiencing repeated rejection, an individual is conditioned to assume all other potential prospects will also reject them. Every "signal" of interest may be dismissed, even when the object of one's attraction is genuinely interested. "Actual helplessness" occurs when there are no signals of interest to be misinterpreted.
  • The Fundamental Attribution Error can cause individuals to see people as being mean or shallow towards them when they have experienced a rejection of some form, instead of explaining the behaviour through situational or environmental factors. Unmarried individuals living in rural or suburban areas find themselves unable to find a suitable partner due to social and marriage patterns. Unmarried men who continue to live with their parents, find themselves to be involuntarily celibate because of the stigma attached on adult men who still live at home.[8]

See also

References

  1. ^ For many, sexless lifestyle is not a choice, Georgia State University News Release, July 24, 2001 (accessed December 14, 2006)
  2. ^ Involuntary celibacy: A life course analysis D. Donnelly, E. Burgess, S. Anderson, R. Curry, J. Dillard, Journal of Sex Research 38(2), S. 159-169. (2001) (accessed December 14, 2006)
  3. ^ Study shows that involuntary celibacy can lead to anger and depression American Association of Single People, November 12, 2001 (accessed December 14, 2006)
  4. ^ Sex Matters AbeBooks.com, (accessed December 14, 2006) DEAD LINK! (Also: if this is a regular book, then citation should be by ISBN.)
  5. ^ Brian G. Gilmartin (1987), Shyness and Love: Causes, Consequences and Treatment, University Press of America, Lanham, Maryland (701 pages). ISBN 0-8191-6102-0
  6. ^ Sexuality in Society syllabus for San Francisco State University, Fall 2004 (accessed December 14, 2006)
  7. ^ Sociology of Sexuality Syllabus for Washington State University, Summer Quarter, 2006 (accessed December 14, 2006)
  8. ^ Flocker, Michael. 2004. The Hedonism Handbook. DaCapo Press. Cambridge, MA. p.129, ISBN 0-306-81414-5
  9. ^ Seabury, David. 1964. The Art of Selfishness. Julian Messner Inc. New York. pp.180-183
  10. ^ Russell, Bertrand. Of Marriage & Morals. Liverlight Publishing Corporaton. New York. 1970. pp.290-291, ISBN 0-87140-211-4
  11. ^ Thornhill R and Palmer C. (2000). A Natural History of Rape. Cambridge: MIT Press, ISBN 0-262-20125-9
 
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